“Bitterness is the poison we drink hoping someone else will die” (anonymous).
We often bury bitterness deep inside, polluting the fountain of our heart. Until we go to God in prayer and ask Him to reveal all the people we hold in resentment, all the experiences that have hurt us, we will continue to build walls up against others as well as God. We will not allow God to forgive us and we will not learn to forgive ourselves unless we are willing to pray this prayer:
“Dear Heavenly Father, only You know the depth of the bitterness that I am carrying. Only You know the true impact that bitterness is having on me emotionally and physically. Lord, I am tired of trying to carry this heavy burden of bitterness by myself. I know that You have been inviting me to give it to You, but my pride has made me want to hold on to it and make the individuals that I have been bitter toward pay for what they have done. Please forgive me for holding out on You for so long. I want You to reveal to me all of the stored-up bitterness in my heart so that I can give it to You to dispose of. And then, Lord, give me a willing heart to let you keep it and not try to take it back. I praise You for Your provision to deal with every one of my sins. I love you, Jesus. Amen” (God’s Heart Call to Inner Peace, Bruce & Dorothy Hayward).
Afterwards, write down everyone and everything God brings to mind and pray for each person:
“Lord Jesus, I choose to forgive (who) for (what), which caused me to feel how. I am willing to release who from my judgement and the debt that I feel they owe me. Who has no further obligation to me. I gladly transfer all this pain and the consequences that I have suffered to You, my Savior (1 Peter 5:6,7). Thank you for being willing to take it from me. Jesus, I confess my sin of unforgiveness against who to You now and ask that You take back the ground that the enemy has held in my heart from this bitterness. I yield my heart completely to You. Thank you for Your cleansing of my heart today. In the name of Jesus I pray. Amen.” (1 John 1:9; Eph 4:26,27) (God’s Heart Call to Inner Peace, Bruce & Dorothy Hayward).
Spend time in quiet stillness imagining God taking your bitterness away from you and nailing it to the cross, so that you are free. And then you will experience love from God, love for God, and love for others like n
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” Col 3:12-14